At my 38 week appointment with the midwives, I “knew for sure” I would’ve had my baby by now (Emma came at 38+6), so I was feeling kind of frustrated to still be pregnant, but knew this baby would come on her own time when she was ready. At the Birth Center, they do not like checking women’s dilation, and will not typically do it unless you ask. It just doesn’t mean anything. Unless you are a control freak like myself. I went ahead and asked them to check because at this point in my pregnancy with Emma I was already 7cm. I was starting to feel anxious and thought it would help to know about how much time I might have once real contractions begin. When she checked me, I was 4cm dilated. It was no 7cm, but I was excited nonetheless!
The next few nights were calm, but on January 28th, I was up for 4 hours timing somewhat painful contractions. I eventually fell asleep. Not real labor. Darn. The next night I started having the same type of contractions and figured they would fizzle out again just like they had done the night before. Only this time I was wrong! Here’s a play-by-play!
10:33 – The first contraction woke me up. I had 2 contractions 9 minutes apart, 2 contractions 5 minutes apart, and then they started coming every 2-3 minutes. Kevin was still awake downstairs and I told him he may be pulling an all nighter! I debated whether or not to call my parents to come over. It was the middle of the night and I would hate for this to be a false alarm!
11:15 – I told mom I was having contractions and that I was going to call the midwife. When I called, Rita (one of my favorites!) told me to give it another hour, walk around, shower and see if they go away. If not, call back.
11:45 – I showered and stood/swayed through contractions but I only made it 30 minutes longer before I called Rita back and told her I was headed up there. I also called my mom and Michaele, my friend/birth photographer.
12:15 – Mom and Dad got to the house as I gathered up last minute items pausing to breathe in between contractions. 2 minutes apart was no joke. I remember being very far dilated with Emma before my contractions got that close together.
12:30 – Headed to the Birth Center! I was nervous at this point because I had been having contractions every 2 to 3 minutes and on the 15 minute drive over there I only had ONE contraction. I just knew we were going to get there after I had woken everyone up and they were going to send me back home.
12:45 – When we arrived at the Birth Center, we were greeted by Kristen (a midwife new to the BC), Rita (midwife), and Maureen (nurse). All the lights were dim and I just felt so relieved to be there. It’s such a different atmosphere in the middle of the night when you’re the only people there! They hooked me up to the monitors to check on the baby and contractions for a minute and then checked me to find that I was 8cm dilated! Looks like we were staying! (Thankful for only one contraction in the car because I found out quickly that those are the WORST).
At this point, I was in transition and knew she would be coming sooner rather than later. Michaele got there at this time and (unbeknownst to me!) documented things I was saying and doing for the rest of the labor…some of which I will not be sharing! I always say the most ridiculous things! These are her notes (I’m so thankful she did this!) with bits and pieces added in by me:
1:00am – In between contractions we were talking about what this baby may look like and whether or not she would have short legs like Emma and her Daddy.
1:40 – I asked for/ate a banana (I hate bananas!).
2:00 – I picked out the hat that CK would wear when she’s born. (It was the same one my mom liked too!) Some of the midwives knit them for all the babies!
2:10 – One of the things I love about the BC is that you really get to know the other women that will have babies around the same time as you. If you choose to, you have around 5 classes together to learn about things like caring for a newborn, breastfeeding, etc. When you walk in the building, they have a board on the wall with all the mom’s names and their due dates. As soon as the mom has their baby they put a little diaper on it with the baby’s name. While in labor I loved checking my friends names to see if they had had their babies yet.
2:40 – I started taking votes about whether or not we should break my water and get in the tub. We decided to just keep walking the hallways for now. I was already so hot and wasn’t sure if I wanted to get in hot water…I’m a fainter. I was delusional at this time too and joked that if it were Kevin in labor, I would be asleep in the bed and he could “holla when it’s go time.” (Haha…)
3:00 – I said, “They don’t call it labor for nothin’…” right after a lonnngggg contraction. (Michaele said I handled it “like a boss”). I walked another lap.
3:06 – My mom goes to pour some coffee. We’re too old to be pulling all-nighters! Haha. I was getting very, VERY tired at this point.
3:17 – Rita checked my dilation. I was 9cm dilated and at +1 station. (I removed the comment I made at this point! Ha!) My mom guessed the baby was coming at 4:45am.
3:24 – I decided to let them break my water because I knew it would get the ball rolling. It was painless but took them a while to get it to break. Apparently I said, “Michelle Dugger is insane!” (???? haha)
3:31 – I told Maureen I was starting to feel pushy. That didn’t take long!
3:39 – I asked for a Jolly Rancher (I don’t eat those either!) but got a piece of gum. Apparently even in the hardest of times I need my sweet fix. At this point I said, “I’m going to have to push for seven hours.”
4:06 – First push and baby girl has crowned. I asked my mom, “Why did you do this four times?!”
4:11 – Second push and she is BORN!!!!!
Clara Kate came out screaming her face off and pinked up immediately. I had a long enough cord so they passed her right up to me and we did skin to skin immediately. She had SO much dark hair and, to be honest, it took me a minute to connect with her because she was not at all what I pictured. I remember being in disbelief that the pushing phase was so short because that was NOT my experience with Emma. I even said something along the lines of, “That was it? That was so easy!!”
And for the stuff people never talk about…while we were loving on our new girl, we were also waiting…and waiting…and waiting for the placenta to deliver. It just wasn’t coming. They gave me something to put under my tongue to get things going, and even had CK latch on and try nursing to get contractions going again. It just wasn’t working. I was having a really hard time focusing to push the placenta out while also holding/admiring CK, so Kevin took her so we could get this over with.
4:27am – “So what’s the issue?”
4:32 – CK was introduced to breast
4:43 – Rita had to manually extract my placenta. Yes, you read that right. Yes, it was as lovely as it sounds. No, I didn’t have pain medication. After that was all taken care of, it was smooth sailing!
Baby girl was weighed after a while (7lb. 9oz!), we got to rest up, eat some breakfast, and show her off! Our Dads & my sisters came to visit around 7am before heading into work/school. Emma came by with my mom around 8:30 and we were home in our own bed by 10:30 that same morning. I didn’t have a bad hospital experience with Emma, but there is just something SO magical about the Birth Center. It will always have a piece of my heart! I am so thankful for those women and all that they do.
Happy 1st Birthday, Clara Kate! We love you, so, so much!